Building Together events are designed to provide individuals and couples tools so that together they can build stronger foundations where their relationships can thrive. We help individuals in relationships heal from past wounds (in and/or out of the relationship), connect with one another, and strengthen the bond between them. Come have fun, get closer, build strength into your relationship. Join us for an evening of healing, connecting to yourself and your spouse, and building a stronger marriage.
We all desire to be in an emotionally fulfilling relationship. We are designed to build connection and relationships with God, spouse, family and others. When you learn about your emotions, and how to access them instead of numbing, you are able to communicate with your spouse what emotions you are feeling. You will learn tools to improve your ability see each other for who you really are. We teach you tools to see how you can remove historical patterns of how you interact and characteristics that we all project and transfer onto one another. As we learn to speak the language that our spouse can understand, and that they respond to, our relationships become stronger.
So often, relationships start to break down as communication breaks down. What is it about being heard and speaking our truth that gets so difficult? With clear communication, we can let go of our expectations and begin to ask for what we need and want. Communicating takes practice and finesse. When I speak from a place of my experience, instead of telling someone what they “should” do, the other person doesn’t have to put up his defenses, he doesn’t have to be on guard, because I’m just sharing where I am.
Trust can be built and rebuilt, and couples can enjoy the intimacy that comes from being secure in each other’s love. Trust comes from being seen and heard, it goes both ways. Both of us in a relationship must find ways to be seen and heard, as well as to see and hear the other. When we create safety for our partner, we give them space to be more vulnerable and open with us. If we see our spouse from a place of love, instead of judgment, our relationship will flourish. When we are concerned with what can I get out of the other one, we will find that there is never enough. Looking for evidence of trustworthy behaviors, we will find them, if we are searching for ways they have broken our trust, we will only find evidence of that.
Each interaction in a relationship leads either toward intimacy or away from it. No behavior is neutral. With everything you do and say, the tone and intention of every word, act, or gesture, you are shifting the intimacy of your relationship. Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. At the heart of humankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and loved by another. Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love. In the Bible, it speaks of man and woman becoming “one flesh”. That does not mean losing our own identities, it means we enter into each other’s lives in a deep and intimate way.
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